Excuse Number Five And Counting..

                             My late husband's mother came up with yet another excuse for the way we were treated.  It is like playing a game of bad-mitten or tennis, whichever you like to compare it too. She keeps serving them and I keep hitting them back.  Kristy has had her mother make up excuses for her bad behavior all of her life, still Kristy takes no blame for the way she acts, shifting the blame always.  Even at her own father's funeral, its sad, disrespectful and irritating.  I am so weary of it.
                           The latest round started when I wrote her and asked Pat how she was doing?  Kristy, she said  "Wants the fighting to end and have a close family" then proceeds to blame my son for promoting more dispute at his grandpa's funeral.....WHAT, ....ah yes, she wants a close family...right....bull cookies!!!!
                           This had me really wound up and upset...its like I can't get away from this garbage..Her philosophy on her latest excuse was because we wouldn't sit behind  Kristy at the funeral .....ok  I want to explain that the day before not one of them (Kristy or Clayton) said a word to us and now her butt is parked in a church pew, she is all of a sudden compassionate?    I know her well enough to say this was an act!  Nice to us in a pig's eye!
                           I wrote back with the truth and told her that the reason we didn't sit up there was that the kids and I felt Gary's only sister, the only one left ,  should have been up in front of us, when she didn't move, we didn't move.  The kids and I wanted to sit by her and her family, the rest of Gary's nieces and nephews, all of them had talked to us and made us feel welcomed, I think we all felt the same way "The Misfits".  The main reason however,was that the kids thought Aunt Pauline was just about it, she is so much like her brother, it brought a comfort level to the three of us.  Bless her heart.
                          It really upsets me because Kristy singled out my son.....Now she is really pushing it with me, the main fact is my son didn't do a thing.  I just keep firing back on how it was all of Kristy and her family that the emphasis was placed on at the calling hours and funeral and the rest of us were left out, even though we are family.  I am sure another excuse awaits me if I write her again, so I am not going to.  She has her own little group to hang around her, let them deal with her...I tried.   Pat told me that she hoped all this would clear up before  Christmas....at this rate..I don't think so, at least I know we aren't going to get involved in it anymore.
  Dad deserved better and has a close family, thank you , his late brother Donald's family , his sister Pauline and her family and my son, my daughter, my family and I.   I know he would have been proud of his grandson and his granddaughter.     Despite the rest of the hoopla or what they say .
                       I got to hand it to my sister, she called (dad) Gary's funeral 'The Kristy Show" sad but true.  I can hear the tonight show's theme playing in my head and "Here's Kristy".  My sister said "Kristy must think she's something else"   I couldn't have but it better myself.  Her mother did admit to me that "Maybe I spoiled her too much, she gets so jealous"...well gee, do you think so?  and guess what, you are still spoiling her and encouraging her jealousy . . I mean , favoritism and blame shifting for her....oh well, I know I'm not perfect and boy do I mess up.. but its on those rare occasions I can look at my kids proudly with all the mistakes I make and still say "I did something right."